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There are many situations that can lead to a woman exclusively using a vibrator for orgasm. Some women experiment with a vibrator while trying to have their first orgasm and just stick with it because it works. Others start to use a vibrator when they don't want to exert a lot of energy during masturbation and later find that they prefer the vibrator path to orgasm every time. For still other women, a partner introduces a vibrator and the woman gradually comes to rely on it solely.
In all these situations, the women sometimes have questions similar to yours: Did I cause this dependence? Or was something wrong with me to start with?
There's nothing "wrong" with getting very accustomed to one particular path to orgasm. Probably, you first learned to reach orgasm with your vibrator and simply got habituated to it. That does, however, narrow the playing field for you and a sexual partner -- for now, if you want to reach orgasm the vibrator must be in the picture.
As you may have found, your preference for a vibrator doesn't bother some sexual partners while it bothers others greatly. Those who get bothered often place a high premium on being the one who provides the stimulation that pleasures their partner. The unbothered don't care about the exact path you take as long as it's fun and you can do it together. One type of partner may be better than the other for you if you want to expand your repertoire beyond vibrator usage.
If you decide to experiment with achieving orgasms in other ways, start by using your own hand and a vaginally safe lubricant. Activities and changes you might explore include:
* Breathing more deeply or shallowly
* Breathing more quickly or slowly
* Tensing muscles in your legs
* Repositioning your legs (legs apart, together, bent at the knee, straight ... )
* Pointing your toes
* Trying a new body position (if you usually lie on your back, try your side or stomach)
* Actively picturing sexual images that really excite you (regardless of what they are)
* Trying fast light pressure or slow firm pressure
* Exploring all your genital nooks and crannies to gain access to as much pleasure as possible
Give yourself 20 minutes of stimulation (at the very least) before switching to your vibrator. And generally avoid using a vibrator immediately before trying with your hand -- a vibrator usually creates rather intense sensations that can make manual stimulation seem inadequate in comparison.
You asked about having an orgasm from a partner's stimulation. While that's a reasonable goal to work toward, I recommend starting off with solo stimulation to orgasm and then conveying what you learn about yourself to a partner later on.
Louanne Cole Weston, PhD, author of Sex Matters®, is a licensed marriage, family, and child counselor and a board-certified sex therapist in practice since 1983. Her work in the field of human sexuality includes extensive experience as a therapist, educator, and researcher.
Originally published April 27, 2000.
Updated and medically reviewed by Gary D. Vogin, MD March 22, 2002.
From Mens Health Magazine
In your rush to get to the good stuff, you probably bypass mundane body parts like
arms. Surprise her by devoting extra attention to them during foreplay. There are a handful of major nerves that run in straight lines from the hands up through her arms and to her shoulders. "Many men, when they're rubbing, kissing, or licking a woman's arm, end up working around the arm as if it were an ear of corn," says Felice Dunas, Ph.D., author of Passion Play. "That's nice, but it's not as stimulating as if you work your way up the arm, following a straight line. By staying in a single line, you focus on a single nerve." 
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